Five Ways I Healed and Finally Got Over My Past

A few years have passed since my last relationship. I wouldn’t call it an official relationship though because we never really did get to call each other gf/ bf, it was more of a “mutual understanding.” It’s also been a lot of years since my first boyfriend (I had a relationship when I was 15 years old). And yes, All these years since I’ve been single as a pringle, and I’ve had my frustrations as to why I became such. I was thinking maybe something is wrong with me or something is wrong with them, but then I realized, everything has its purpose. Maybe there is a reason why I am single and it looks to me, it will stay that way for a very long, long time. But it wasn’t a walk in the park, it took me YEARS to finally accept my frustrations in my past life and I thank God I was able to surpass it – I finally got over my past.

So what did I do in order to become healed? Here are the things I did in order to do so:

1. Worked on improving myself

Distracting myself productively as I get better in time was one of the best things that I did in my life in order to move on. I went back to school, got my college diploma, worked a few jobs, volunteered, networked and got active in church. Needless to say, I got busy. And boy, it paid off.

2. Got closer to God

I can’t say that during the whole time that I have been staying here in Canada, I’ve been serious about my relationship with Jesus. There was once a time, especially when I was still a newcomer here, that I went further away from Christ. But recent events in my life have given me a reason and meaning to the truth that Jesus, Father God and the Holy Spirit, is real! I’m not a perfect Christian and there are indeed times where I become weary in my faith, but I still press on. That is why I am blessed, it’s all because of Father God.

3. Became grateful of my family

When I was younger, I really thought of my family as this annoying group of people I have to deal with for the rest of my life. This is pertaining to my parents, most especially. I was so mad that I had strict and strong-willed parents. But in the long run, when circumstances happened in my life, they stood by me. Through thick and thin, they were there, my brothers too. Now, they look after me and always advice me to do the right thing, even if it is uncomfortable for me because it is needed for me to progress in life. I’m grateful for my family.

4. Hung out with new friends

Before, when I was a newcomer, I held on to my old friends so dearly. It’s not wrong to look back but when I saw that they were moving on, I felt stuck as to why I just can not move on myself. So now, I hang out with new friends, new faces, most especially my church friends and school mates from college. It’s really hard to go through life without friends. Therefore, always make new ones but keep the old sometimes.

5. Forgave my old self and the ones who hurt me

Just recently, I forgave a lot of people in my life. They don’t need to know, but deep inside in my heart, I have forgiven them. It’s hard to go around living life having a grudge on someone who have hurt you or did you wrong. It’s toxic. In time, I have learned that in order to set myself free from the baggage I have been carrying for a LONG TIME, I need to forgive. I’ve forgiven my ex-MU, my ex-boyfriend, the guy who ghosted me and the guy who rejected me. I also forgive those who bullied me in the past. Yes, I’m now free.

Healing takes time, courage and patience. If I can do it, so can you. The result doesn’t have to be right away, as long as you are doing your best in your own pace, you’ll get there. You’ll get over it.

Life Lately Vol. 1

Hi there! I know it’s been a while since I have made a blog post. Life has been pretty busy lately but at the same time it has been chill because I don’t work as of the moment. But nevertheless a lot has happened in my life since the last time I made a post on this blog. This new segment is going to be about any updates on my life since the last blog post. For this first segment, I’m going to date it back for about a month, since November before 2018 ends this December. Here we go:

Went to New York City. At exactly a month ago, November 27, 2018, my mom and I concluded our mini-adventure to The Big Apple. Went to Times Square. 5th street. Tiffany’s. MoMA. Statue of Liberty. The Oculus at World Trade Centre. And many more! Here is the link to my New York Minute Vlog.

 

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Skin Care First.  I have noticed my skin was starting to become dry and flaky during the start of winter. So I researched on good and recommended skin care products for my type of skin. Funny thing though when I went to Sephora, the saleslady told me I don’t need to use skin care because my skin was already smooth! I was flattered of course but still, it doesn’t take away the fact that I have dry and flaky skin. So I bought Glow Recipe moisturizer, Drunk Elephant brands and Glossier facial wash for my skin. It’s a bit pricey, but I noticed results right away in just a week! Kudos to these brands, they really nourish the skin.

Make Up Second. Make up has always been my solace if I don’t feel good. But that all changed when I rediscovered skin care must be important first before make up. Make up still tugs my heartstrings because it makes me feel good inside when I look good though. So here are my favourite make up essentials this winter:

Brush Lettering Love. Went back to loving anything related to the arts. Started to practice brush lettering. In fact, later in the summer I attended a brush lettering workshop by Alicia Spence Design and learned the proper way of handling a brush pen, writing letters and the like. So I incorporated all of these learnings in my art. That’s why my letters look sort of different now.

Creative Bible Journaling. Bought the Inspire Bible so I could start reading The Bible in my own pace and style. It’s my New Year’s Resolution. This time I am very eager to start and finish The Bible as soon as I can. I am also excited to colour and personalize my Bible, to which I bought a watercolour set so I can colour with ease. I am very grateful to God for this year and what better way to celebrate than to learn more about our Father. Praise God!

Poetry Book Collection. I have taken an interest, yet again, to poetry. What sparked my interest is a crush. To which I am also grateful I re-ignited my passion to walk with Jesus Christ! But that’s another story. With regards to my collection, so far I have Lang Leav’s Sea of Strangers and Universe of Us, Atticus’ Love Her Wild and Courtney Peppernell’s Pillow Thoughts. All of which gives me feels. Which is good feels.

AXIS Lifegroup. I mentioned I re-ignited my passion for walking with Jesus, it’s not all thanks to a crush. My lifegroup from church is also the reason why I went back to being serious with my walk with Christ. I just started coming back this November and every week it keeps getting better and better! I never want to miss a session because really, heart to heart talks and learning about God’s word cleanses your soul! Thanks be to God for there’s a community/ family that nurtures our walk with Him. I am forever grateful.

Christmas Season. This Christmas season was very simple but sweet. Started it wandering around downtown, especially at the Christmas Market (Toronto) and ended it with a nice, quiet fam time with my loved ones. We went to church prior to Christmas eve. Then on the eve, I drank some wine and ate some cheese. Jesus is the Reason for the Season, so I spent it meditating on God’s word by finishing my Bible journal’s first page. So happy and giddy inside.

Those are my life updates for now. Hope to see more of you, my dear readers, in the future!

xx,

Denise P